I came into Grace expecting to do great things. Somehow, the weeks prior had allowed my “do-good” ego to super inflate – to a point where when I actually arrived at Grace, and realized that I was completely unprepared and foolish looking, you could probably actually hear my ego deflating – complete with the air rapidly swooshing out of my bloated pride. But, with every burst of my bubble comes a special sort of catharsis, and in the end I managed to build myself back up again, this time with a more sustaining foundation for my pride. Out with the bad, in with the new.
Back to the beginning. I arrived a day late and only a few minutes before my first official small group session. My group had already acclimated itself to an extent without me. Ironically, the supposed “leader” was the awkward, intruding outsider. We sat for devotionals, and that’s about all that happened. We sat, with awkward glances up every once in a while, but otherwise in complete silence: “immersed in our reading.” At that point I began to panic. Why had I not prepared myself more? What was I doing in this position? What if… I ruin this huge spiritual opportunity for my group members?
My confidence faltered, and I began to pray for courage – namely, for the right words to say. I pray and I pray, and then I glance down at the chapter we were supposed to be reading. Isaiah 51. I read through it, and I am smacked in the face: “I have put my words in your mouth, I have covered you in the shadow of my hand.”
Somehow, even after I was blatantly told that I would have the right words to say, that first small group session remained undeniably awkward. There were still awkward glances here and there, a pressing, choking silence, and a forced and nervous group closing prayer. We disbanded, perhaps ostensibly in failure, but something inside me had changed. Small group was no longer defined by pass or fail, pouring heavenly wisdom or idiotic rambling. Rather, I began to see small group as defined by whether I have it or not: a focus, and a belief. We moved from that session to grow a less and less awkward group, and I grew courage knowing that both my genius and mishaps would bring the same Glory – because the words coming from my mouth were no longer just my own.
It was lessons like these that I learned from my small group. In general, all my lessons can be summarized in a single thought: teaching can be the best learning, giving the best way to receive. I was teacher, and leader, and perhaps a spiritual guide, both those titles were just that: empty titles. There were no distinctions from teacher and leader. In the following days, I received similar blatant messages – from sermons, or songs, or from my readings – but most of all, from my small group. On many occasions, it seemed that God had not only put his words in my mouth, but in my group’s mouths as well. They were truly teaching their teacher.
The last night with my group quickly approached. That final night was one of the most warm and fulfilling moments I’ve ever remembered. I know many, including myself, are accustomed to “feeling God” through a single, glorious and passionate emotion that hits them during an intense bout of worship. And that was how I expected to be hit again. Luckily, that source of feeling that I once depended on was completely dry. Instead, I found that love from giving love away. There were no intense spiritual breakdowns, only simple, humble gestures of love. I poured all my heart to my small group, yet somehow my heart kept growing fuller and fuller. It was the second part to that beautiful paradox that I had taken home: giving is the best way to receive.
That torn and battered ego from the first day returned home, fuller than ever, filled this time not with selfish prideful love, but a selfless, proud and loving foundation. And I am confident that this is a good pride. I am so proud of my small group and the love that they wield.